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Can I Stay Friends With My Ex-Boyfriend?

Dear Advice Girl,

I really EXTREMELY want to be friends with my ex. But I think I hurt him really badly. I don't know what to do, and I'm desperate!

Signed,
Twilight Morning

Dear Twilight Morning,

It's super unfair to try to push your ex into friendship mode right after dumping him. You might be ready for it, but he still needs time to heal.

Leave him alone. And be aware that he might totally hate you and not want to speak to you for a while. It doesn't mean he's being a jerk - it just means he's doing what he has to do in order to get over you.

After some time has passed, he might be willing to try the friend thing. But it's up to him to make that call, not you.

Love,
The Advice Girl

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What users are saying...

well give him time guys need time to heal as well but im sure deep down he wants you to be friends just doesnt know how to show or tell you
lilerza, 16, Niagara Falls, ON

u 2 should make up
megamee, 16, Little Sioux, IA

Me And My Ex Was Already Friends. But She Had Sex With Me The Day Before Yesterday. And The Day After She Broke It To Me Like We're Friends and We're Not Gonna Have Sex or Foool Around No More. I Felt Hurt... But Im Feeling Ok. She'll Be Back... Juss Let Her Do her For Now... (its Just A Matter Of Time) U Have To Have That Much Of Confidence.
anonymous

Mine aren't my friends anymore. I'm happy about that.
jamie651234, 17, Fort Lauderdale, FL

My Ex and i weren't friends for months after we broke up. i really hurt him bad because i was his first real girlfriend. but just recently we have started talking again and its awesome! i kinda think he likes me again but im not trying to lead him on. so just be patient
rainbowbunnies_blahh, 14, Porcupine Plain, SK

i think you should ask him if hes ok with you guys being friends....its nun rong wit bt ur might feels might come back bt no big deal
independent_011swag, 16, Gilmer, TX

of course you can. here in north carolina a lot of guys and girls are friends with there ex and some are even best friends. here in north carolina its easy to make freinds and make friends with your ex. but there are some ppl who is not friends with thier exs. but if you and your ex wanna be friends then thats great. her in north carolina we stick together .
cantbwithouthim, 16, Raleigh, NC

ok its not wrong to try to be friends with ur ex but u have to give him space and he needs to let u in. so just be nice and say hi or how r u fer now.
cj_2008, 14, Howard, OH