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Can I believe his reason for dumping me?

Dear Advice Girl,

About a month ago, my boyfriend broke up with me. His reason was that I was being distant in our relationship. He also said that he just fell apart and didn’t know what to do.

Should I believe his reason? And what do you think he means when he says he fell apart?

Signed,
   Ashlei

Dear Ashlei,

When people dump each other, they usually say a whole lot of garbage that doesn’t really mean anything and is only designed to make you feel better. It sounds like you’ve been fed some of that garbage. (Not that your ex is a bad guy. He was just trying to say "I don't want to date you anymore" in the kindest way he could think of.)

Don’t think too hard about what he said. If he ever wants you back, it’ll be because he changed his mind, or because he misses you, but not because he fell back together or anything.

 

Love,
   The Advice Girl


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What users are saying...

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if u love him open up to him tell him how u feel about what he telling you so u can figure out away to stil be together..
take_me_away77, 19, Turlock, CA
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Dude , who cares. He broke up with you and that's that. Whether that's the real reason or not , it really isn't any of your business now. Get a new guy and move on. More fish in the sea :)
anneliseee, 18, Salt Lake City, UT
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I KIND OFF WAS DA SAME WELL I STILL AM... MY EX DUMPED ME ON DA 1ST DAY OF SUMMER DAT WAS ON JUNE 1 AFTR I ASKD HM IF HE WANTD 2 GO SUMWERE WID ME N HE SAID YES HE WAS SO EXCITED WE WERE GNA B 2GETHER DURIN SUMMER ALSO I WAS GNA B GNG 2 HIS HOUSE WEN HE CLLD ME 2 GO N DEN HE DUMPS ME!! HE SAID IT WAS BCUZ HE WANTD 2 B WID ME ALL DA DAYS BUT DEN HE TOLD MY BESTFRIEND IT WAS BCUZ I GAVE HIS # 2 A LOT OF GIRLS 2 CLL HM N ASK IF HE HAD A GF... I NEVER DID DAT Y WULD I DO DAT WEN I TRUSTD HM... SO I ASKD HM N HE SAID IT WAS BCUZ HE JUZ WANTD 2 BUT DEN HE TELLS MY CUZIN DAT HE REALLY LUVD ME A LOT BUT DAT IT WAS CUZ OF ME DAT I DIDTN UNDERSTAND HM... I SAY HE DIDNT UNDERSTAND ME... IM REALLY CONFUSED N I REALLY WANT HM BCK... I LUV HM LIKE ALOT... WE WERE MAKN PLANS 4 R FUTURE CUZ HE WANTD 2 MARRY ME DEN HE DUMPS ME LIKE HELLO IM CONFUSED DID HE LUV ME IS HE LIEN IDK WAT 2 DO...OH N HE TOLD MY TIA DAT HE LUVD ME A LOT N DEN HE HAS A GF N B4 HE WAS TRYIN 2 MAKE ME JEALOUS... N DEN HE TELLS ME HE DOESNT LUV ME... IM SO CONFUSED IDK WAT 2 DO NEMORE... I REALLY NEED ADVICE/HELP... PLZ SUM1 HELP ME... DNT SAY MOVE ON SUMTHIN RELATD 2 DAT CUZ IVE TRIED BUT EVERY SINGLE THING REMINDS ME OF HM CUZ WE DID SO MANY THINGS 2GETHER...TAMBIEN 4 DA 1ST TIME... NO HE WASNT MY 1ST BF... HE WAS MY 5TH O 6TH IDK I 4GOT... BUT HE WAS MY 1ST TRUE LOVE...
sexcii_manda, 16, Laredo, TX
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Ask him politely what it means by distant... im curious
anonymous
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my ex whixh he just broke up with me recently waited till we got back together only to break up with me the next day saying we are better off as friends i was like make up your mind. we had this on and off thing for about 4 months but im tired of it and im trying to move on.
foxya15, 17, Riverside, NJ
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well mine waited til after eight months into the relatioship, almost at nine to say he is not ready for a sero=ious relationship.
anonymous
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Well, my boyfriend broke up with me the day after he said he loved me. and i asked why and he said that he doesnt like me anymore. AND THEN i asked is there another girl? and he said not yet... so now i'm messed up/confused.
only1jamie, 14, Los Gatos, CA
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I just sent an question basically asking the same thing that this questions about. I think it is just an cop-out to being an loser-man. But I was IN-LOVE with my ex-fiance for 7 years and then he just...tells me he needs to find himself so we put our relationship on pause. Then we break it off for good. He tells me he's not getting back in an relationship but before I know it he's dating the girl he was having an sexual relationship with but no-strings-attached.
2hard2claim, 19, Athens, TX
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yes, he's going to hell if he lies so. f*ck him.
anonymous
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What difference does it make?? He thinks you suck,so, what do you care?
lampyguy, 18, Clermont, FL

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