Is it wrong to crush on yer BFF's crush?

Dear Advice Girl,

Is it wrong to crush on your best friend’s crush?

Signed,
   Confused

Dear Confused,

Now, you can’t control who you get a crush on, but for the sake of your friendship, I recommend you keep your feelings to yourself. You might think this is unfair, but come on – which is more important to you? A close friendship you already have, or a relationship with a guy that probably won’t even happen?

Before you complain to me about soulmates and missing out on the love of your life, consider this: most girls in their lifetimes will get a crush on their best friend’s crush. Not because the guy is perfect for them, but because they’re jealous of their friend’s attention, or they respect her opinion so much that they start mimicking her feelings, or they suddenly see the guy as dateable when they didn’t before. Whatever the reason, it’s usually not a serious crush that lasts for very long.

So instead of potentially destroying your friendship, just wait it out. Your feelings will probably go away. And if they don’t? Well, then you’re going to have to decide for yourself if it’s worth sacrificing your friendship over. (It’s probably not.)