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My Guy Won't Do PDA's at School!

Dear Advice Girl,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 1/2 weeks. When I'm with him (after school, around town) we cuddle and kiss and hug and laugh. But when we're at school, he stays with me, but doesn't hold my hand or put his arm around me. What does that mean?

Signed,
   Kathryn

Dear Kathryn,

Everyone feels a little differently about public displays of affection. Some people don't mind kissing in front of their family, while other people won't even hold their sweetie's hand when their mom's around. It all depends on your comfort level.

Your guy doesn't like acting cutesy around his classmates, and that's okay. It might bum you out, but it's got nothing to do with how he feels about you. (Want proof? Well, he still likes hanging around you, doesn't he?)

Don't give him a hard time about it. And definitely don't pressure him into PDA's. As he gets more comfortable with the whole relationship thing, he might change his mind - but that decision's gotta come from him, not you.

(Get more boyfriend and kissing advice on my Facebook and Twitter pages!)

 

Love,
   The Advice Girl


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Just qive him time (:
locabaybeex3, 13, College Point, NY
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Maybe he's not ready for publicity yet, but he'll come around. I definitely wouldn't give him a hard time about it though...
mokutless, 18, Thayer, MO
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hmm...
cutiecontrerbear, 15, Redondo Beach, CA
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either hes ahh jerk, shyy, or just dnt wnt ppl all in his grill bout his business.! buhh if itsz nun of thoes than hes just nt worth it.!
qualabaybai, 16, Lakeland, FL
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its not you. a lot of times guys like to show that they are "all that" or tough. so the pda stuff in their minds makes them weak. but i also agree that you should talk to him about it
toriann118, 23, Beverly Hills, CA
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ask him about it. see how he feels about pda. maybe he just wants to make sure it'll last longer than a few weeks before baring his soul out to the school.
sillyjackers, 18, Saint Paul, MN
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its okay if they dont do PDA because it might mean they're not use to it and they dont know how to show it. Or they might not know what you like to do in public so that's why they dont do anything and they might think they sound stupid if they ask.
anonymous
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gr8 advice hands up !!!
pratham, 18, India
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this is really good advice
candygirl134, 14, Vancouver, WA
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well, i'm going through the same exact thing now ; butt we've been dating for a month and two weeks. We only hold hands. when were on the school bus, he has his hand on my leg and puts my head on his shoulder but we haven't had "OUR KISS" yet. I don't want to rushh him because when me and my ex were together, it took us 5 1/2 months for our first kiss. my new boyfriend is a virgin. so i think he's just scared. i don't want to pressure him into anything. so i guess all i can say is take it slow as possible. and maybe he'll come around to the idea of PDA!
dairea, 16, Mount Union, PA

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