Can I Date My Friend's Ex?

Dear Advice Girl,

My best friend's ex has been flirting with me lately. He's a nice guy and all, but it still feels weird and a little wrong to me.

My friend says she's fine with the flirting. She's even encouraging me to go for him. Even so, it doesn't feel quite right. Should I go out with him or not?

Signed,
   Feeling Weird

Dear Feeling Weird,

That whole "don't go after your friend's ex" rule only counts if your friend doesn't want you to. If she's totally cool with it, then you've got her (and my) full permission to date him all you want.

So why don't you want to? Well, maybe during your friend's relationship, you learned things about him that made him seem like a less-than-perfect boyfriend. Or maybe, um, you just don't like him that way. Not every guy who flirts with you is gonna be a great match.

Turn him down. Great relationships aren't born from someone having to ward off their own bad vibes.