Will my BF and I be together forever?

Dear Advice Girl,

Me and my boyfriend Justin have been seeing each other for 3 months now. We argue almost all the time over dumb stuff. We are so much alike it’s crazy. He cheated on me and I forgave him because I found out the truth. Will me and Justin be together for a long time?

Signed,
   Tashaya

Dear Tashaya,

Sorry, but, um...probably not. Your relationship already has three strikes against it:

Strike #1: He cheated on you. Even if you’ve forgiven him, it doesn’t change the fact that he wanted to fool around with someone behind your back. Why did he do it? Why wasn’t he happy enough just kissing on you? I don’t know, but chances are pretty good that those reasons are still there, and he at least wants to stray again.

Strike #2: When he cheated on you, he didn’t fess up to it right away. You said you “found out the truth,” which means he didn’t tell you about it. That makes him a cheater and a liar. Two qualities which do not a healthy boyfriend make.

Strike #3: You’re always arguing. Arguing all the time over dumb stuff is a sign of bigger problems, problems which’ll take a lot of time and effort to resolve.

If you’re both willing to commit that time and effort, then you might be able to build a healthy relationship. But be warned: being “so much alike it’s crazy” doesn’t mean you guys are destined to be together. Having different opinions, strengths and weaknesses in a relationship is good – and sometimes too many similarities can doom you to Splitsville.