We've been myspacing, & I wanna meet!

Dear Advice Girl,

There’s this guy I know through a mutual friend (the mutual friend goes to school with him and gave me his myspace link), and I really want to meet him in person. However, when I asked him if he wanted to get together, he said that he’s busy because he apparently has only 2 more years of high school left and he wants to spend as much time with his friends as possible.

While I understand that, I really want to become better friends with him and meet him. What (if anything) should/can I do?

Signed,
   Maya

Dear Maya,

That’s about the dumbest excuse I’ve ever heard to keep from hanging out with a sweet girl like you. I’m sure if he wanted to, he could spare you an evening or two out of his petty reserve of TWO WHOLE YEARS, and I’m sure his friends would welcome a break from spending every single night with him. That’s assuming that his story is true. Which of course it isn’t.

Still, an excuse is an excuse (even if it’s totally lame). The fact is, he doesn’t want to get together with you. He doesn’t want to take this friendship any further, no matter how much you do. Why? I don’t know – but the reason doesn’t really matter. Not everyone you like is going to like you back. It’s a hard truth to learn, but it’s better than being in denial about it and hoping that all they need is a little convincing. Quit myspacing this guy and limit your conversations to people who actually want to talk to you. It’ll save you a whole lot of bad feelings.