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Is my friend a lesbian or not?

Dear Advice Girl,

I have a friend named Sami. Lately I’ve been saying she’s a lesbian and I think everyone’s on my side.

Last year she was teaching me a gymnastics trick at her house, and she kept touching my waist and arms and hugging me. I also just found out that last year Sami gave my friend a piggyback ride and wouldn’t let her down! Ewww!!!!! She’s never had a crush or a boyfriend!

Every time I ask her if she's a lesbian, she blows me off. She’s about to lose all her friends and she doesn’t even realize it. What's her problem?

Signed,
   Michelle

Dear Michelle,

What’s your problem?! Her sexuality is none of your business. The fact that you’re turning it into a soap opera is immature and just plain cruel.

If you don’t like her, then don’t hang out with her – but don’t go around talking about her behind her back. Even if your suspicions are right, it’s still dirty gossip. You should be ashamed of yourself for spreading it around.

 

Love,
   The Advice Girl


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I don't think it matters! If she was really your friend, you would stand by her, It doesn't mean YOU have to go out with her. Just be friends! Think of it like that, because other people WILL talk, no matter what and that's just sad.
rocky_freak, 15, Georgetown, IN
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im bisexual and just because your friend is MAYBE a lesbian doesnt mean you cant not be friends with her when my friends found out i was bi they didnt care...and some of them thought it was cool...being lesbian isnt a disease you were friends with her before you thought she was lesbian why should her sexuality effect you friendship get over youself and be a true friend
stephy95, 14, Ventura, CA
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wow..u r so effed up for talkin bout her behind her back..juzz cuz she might be a lezbian duznt meen u hav to treat her that way!!u act like she sum type of alien from mars..shes still a HUMAN BEING..and the worst part is..u dont even know if she relly is..u r such a TERRIBLE FREND!!!and maybe she is but is not tellin u cuz of how u act..and maybe u might end up being the only person she can come to for support..u r such a fucked up person!!
nicolemcd, 15, Perris, CA
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first of alll she may not be lesbian... sometimes thats just how girls are? and how are you and her other "friends" gonna blow her off just because yall think shes lesbian... that is so messed up... honestly if i were her i would be happy yall didnt want to be my friend because id rather have no friends than friends that judge me.... if she is lesbian she probaly knew you guys would react like that and thats why she didnt tell u... now how does that make YOU feel?
babyd_dest, 15, San Antonio, TX
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so what if she was lesbian, even if she was why do you even care??
just_chillin2, 13, Saint Paul, MN
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Sorry that i had to be that rude, but you were being a HORRIBLE HORRIBLE HORRIBLE friend to you and maybe all of these pages of people who now don't like you will serve as your warning to back off and accept people and if you are reading this you should be ashamed of yourself and how low you sunk just to even suggest something like this. You are a bad friend who does not deserve a good friend like sami (btw i cannot begin to describe how upset i am with you for mentioning her name... that was low... really low, congratz... the entire world knows it) If i were sami you not only would not be my friend, but you would be screamed at... maybe this will suffice. You need to re-think yourself a bit and add some kindness or maybe even some acceptance. You know what else i think of you? I think that you need to go right up to sami, tell her what you did, beg for her forgiveness and not dwell on the past and her sexuality... it's none of your damned buisness so either leave her alone forever or apologize and tell her that you want to be her friend again... but wait! You don't deserve a friend like her and you fully deserve it if she is not your friend anymore. How darn dare you.
kittiluvr1303, 25, Mountainside, NJ
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You said her name you idiot... you will have just lost your 'friend' but OH WAIT! You aren't her friend if you are such a jerk to have done theses horrible things to her! My friend is a lesbian and you have NO RIGHT to be this jerk-ish, selfish and idiotic by doing these things to her... why if you were anywhere near me you would get seriously hurt so back off!
kittiluvr1303, 25, Mountainside, NJ
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u r such a bitch!dont talk about peple behind theyre bacl like that!ur a horrible friednd!
hailey11, 15, Washington, IL
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i think all ya need is some real big dink,it'll make you think,
anonymous
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wtf girl shes you friend her sexuality is none of your f'ing business she might just be super friendly your a 2 faced bitch end of story
xxrazzlexx, 18, Victoria, BC

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